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First off all, this entire process isn’t even a little bit easy. Everything is very methodical and every step is treated like it’s the most important in the process from beginning to end.

Sometimes it’s hard as hell to be nice.

So, so very hard.

I get harrassed enough by four kids all day long. The last thing I’m in the mood for? Fifteen different phone calls by fifteen different people trying to sell me on their damn credit card machines. STOP. I have enough to worry about, and calling me incessantly will only make me angry and I won’t think you’re a go getter, I’ll think you’re a thorn in my side.

Next, I can’t keep up with my house and family and baking and building, and grocery shopping and planning, and laundry and marketing myself and this blog…it’s all monotonous. I know that once the 2 little ones start preschool next week it won’t be so overwhelming, but when I am up until 2 am baking and the next night till 2am cleaning out closets, well it makes for a very crabby me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited and know that it’s all going to be worth it. Just keep in mind that it’s also incredibly scary and stressful.

Do me a favor, don’t comment on how tired I look, or that I’m kind of bitchy, or that I’ve lost weight. I have a lot of anxiety, self doubt, insecurities and worry. But I also have drive, motivation, and a fear of failure. Things will settle down a little at some point, but for now, give me a little bit of a break.

If you call me to chat, talk about yourself. I’m tired of talking. So, thanks.

Also, thank you to those who have commented or email me just a quick note of encouragement. I’ve been blown away by a few people who have written to me to say such kind things. It means more than you’ll ever know.

This is what I get for having a few busy days-

Troopa the Swallowtail Caterpillar has left the cocoon. And we missed it! BOO

I didn’t want to taint the wonderful morning  that I spent talking with children and the parents who are thrilled that I’m opening the Cupcake Shop.

But I want to put something out there.

I’m a real person with feelings. Everyday I get up, take care of a house, care for my four kids, and bust my ass to make things for people. I love every minute of it, even if I fall into my bed exhausted and covered in sugar particles and there is food coloring  smeared across my face.

Negative word travels fast.

As I sat there today meeting people, I received a ton of great feedback. I also received a few stink eyes and handful of comments about how someone’s friend was bent out of shape to learn of my existence.

Really.

I do not talk crap about the other bakeries or bakers around Charlotte. I love to bake and I love to eat. If my business intimidates anyone, that’s crazy. The comments are never constructive criticism, it’s random snark and insecurity.

Anytime I have to turn down an order, I immediately give a recommendation! Ella Art and Edible Art are two of my favorites. I don’t need to talk crap about other people to bring them down OR their businesses. I’m also not going to apologize for doing my own marketing to get my name out there before I’m open.

I know I need to ignore the haters, and my skin will grow thicker in time. It’s just gross that other women can’t support each other, even if you’re both passionate about the same thing. Personally, I don’t cake discriminate. If it makes you feel good to have your friends give me the stink eye and post stuff on facebook, that’s fine. As for me, that’s not my style. I’ll save my competitiveness for Cupcake Wars.

In the words of one of my favorite authors:

And I would eat cake in a boat!
And I would eat cake with a goat…
And I will eat cake in the rain.
And in the dark. And on a train.
And in a car. And in a tree.
Cake’s so good so good you see!

So I will eat cake in a box.
And I will eat cake with a fox.
And I will eat cake in a house.
And I will eat cake with a mouse.
And I will eat cake here and there.
Say! I will eat cake ANYWHERE!

HAM I AM.

400 mini cupcakes.

all pink.

all sparkles.

Brinn attends dance classes at Miller Street Dance Academy, and this year Shaye will be in the 2′s class! Little dancers just like their momma. (most of you know I taught dance/drama at Fort Mill Middle till I went and got all knocked up again…)

I was so excited MSDA wanted to support my business and celebrate their first birthday with my cupcakes. They only wanted to do minis so that the children didn’t go bonkers on giant sugar bombs early in the morning, and each was suppose to be pink, with pink sparkles, and pink tiaras.  Done.

My camera didn’t take the most beautiful picture of them last night before I started packaging them in their boxes, but I was very proud of how cute they turned out.

The bash was a HUGE success, I’m so thrilled to have such a wonderful group of people in the ‘hood!

Thanks again, MSDA!